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5 ways to live fearlessly in 2023

At first blush, your response may something: Thou shall feel like a mil- point is to give yourself something to
be, “Of course not.” lion bucks upon leaving the salon. look forward to. That joy has a way
In all seriousness, don’t we all I’m joking. But, also, not really. It’s of seeping into other areas of our
yearn for something better in one nothing short of amazing how good lives. It helps our self-confidence
area of our lives or another? A nicer we feel when we have a positive self- grow legs.
car. A bigger home. Less credit card image. The same can be said for Try a wellness app like
debt. Or perhaps you measure suc- wearing nice clothes—be it a dress Headspace, Calm or BetterHelp
cess in a manner that isn’t quantifi- suit or fancy PJs. It can be an instant These convenient apps are an
able with numbers—you might want mood booster. And why should that easy, helpful way to add awareness,
more freedom regarding your per- “The key is to understand its origin kind of good mojo only be reserved intention, and even purpose to your
sonal time, or maybe you desire and work through your emotions. for when we’re in front of others? day. And the fee to download them is
more fulfilling relationships. That way, it won’t hold you back Sign up for a class you’ve nominal—we tend to spend more on
Whatever tickles your fancy, the from getting what you really want.” been hesitant to take things that have little to no positive
bottom line is this: You want success, And if squashing fear is some- Pilates, creative writing, or wood- impact on our lives.
and you certainly don’t fear getting it, thing you have in your crosshairs, shop, anyone? If we turn inward and The objective with all the above is
right? then Mel Robbins is your gal. really examine our interests, there’s to become comfortable with allowing
Right? You may have already heard of usually something we’re curious our interests to prompt us to branch
Caroline Castrillon, a Forbes Robbins. Her TEDx Talk, “How to about exploring but for some reason out of our comfort zone. One affirma-
magazine contributor whose area of Stop Screwing Yourself Over,” has haven’t. It doesn’t matter what it is; tion at a time. One outfit at a time.
expertise centers on career and en- amassed over 30 million views on what matters most is jumping in and One class at a time. One activity at a
trepreneurship, begs to differ. YouTube, and her books, The 5 Sec- trying it. time.
“Fear of success may not sound ond Rule and The High 5 Habit, have Plan something cool Let this be the year to go for it.
like a legitimate concern to some, made her a best-selling author. to do this year
yet, to many people, it is a very real Robbins’ goal is to make us real- This tip doesn’t even warrant fur- Courtney Conover is wife, mom,
barrier to achievement,” Castrillon ize our potential, and she has five rel- ther explanation. Whether you plan yoga instructor, and Chicken Soup
says. “But surprisingly, it’s not the atively simple ways to get us started: a quick, inexpensive getaway or for the Soul contributor who has
wealth or accomplishment that is so Change your passwords to an af- come up with a new project, the called Wayne home since 1995.
scary. Instead, the fear centers on firmation
what success might ultimately cost. Now, this one is fairly effortless
Whether the concern revolves and involves modifying your pass-
around losing friends or privacy, word to an empowering phase. It
[there are several reasons why] peo- could be something like IAMamaz-
ple have a fear of success.” ing!, ICANdothis, or IwillREACHmy-
Castrillon sites fear of losing one- GOALS—anything that makes you
self (the prospect of money inflating feel good. This may feel odd at first,
one’s ego), fear of criticism (the no- especially if you haven’t made a prac-
tion that we’ll be rejected if we put tice of reciting affirmations. But
ourselves out there in any way), and don’t let that stop you. Besides, pass-
fear of change (as humans, we thrive words aren’t something you share,
on routine, and we tend to fear any- so you don’t have to worry about
thing unknown) as valid reasons why how others will perceive your
we can inadvertently intercept our choices. The only thing that matters
own success. is what sounds good to you.
But here’s the good news, accord- Wear your favorite outfit—even
ing to Castrillon: “Fear of success if you’re not leaving the house
isn’t insurmountable,” she says. It’s like a law of the universe or

10 · January 2023 · The Wayne Dispatch